If you’ve ever felt like you’re struggling to find balance or unsure how to show up authentically in your relationships, this episode is for you. Today’s episode of It’s All Wellness is one that speaks straight to the heart—living in alignment and fostering divine relationships.

I had the privilege of chatting with my amazing friend, Desiree Britton, a women’s empowerment coach who’s deeply passionate about self-worth, relationships, and purpose. We dove into the nuances of attachment theory, the masculine and feminine energies, and how to nurture healthy relationships with ourselves and others. If you’re ready for a powerful conversation on how to truly align with yourself and the relationships you deserve, grab your cuppa and let’s get started!

Living in Alignment: What Does That Really Mean?

One of the key themes of today’s conversation is alignment, but what does that mean, really? It’s more than just a buzzword in the personal development world; alignment, as Desiree describes it, is about finding coherence between your mind, heart, and gut. When these three “brains” are in sync, you’re living in alignment with your truth.

However, alignment isn’t always easy, especially when there’s so much external noise—society’s expectations, cultural conditioning, or even the pressures from family. Desiree shared a powerful perspective on how to tap into your personal values and recognize when you’re in or out of alignment. The key? Listening to yourself. Simple, right? But sometimes it’s the hardest thing to do when you’re surrounded by distractions. Desiree encourages starting small—just paying attention to how you feel in everyday situations can be your first step to clarity.

How to Find Your Truth in a Noisy World

As Desiree explains, personal alignment comes down to clarity on your value system. It’s your internal compass. But what happens when you’re not sure what feels aligned with your true self? That’s where a lot of us get stuck—when we’re conditioned to follow external expectations or societal norms.

Desiree encourages us to become aware of our feelings. What makes you feel expansive and excited? What causes you to contract or feel uneasy? Simple body cues, like when your shoulders hunch or your chest opens, are powerful indicators of alignment or misalignment. By tuning into your body’s responses, you can start discerning what feels true for you.

Attachment Theory: Understanding Your Relationship Patterns

One area that really stood out in our conversation was attachment theory. For anyone unfamiliar, attachment theory explores how early relationships with caregivers influence how we show up in our adult relationships. Desiree broke it down into two categories—secure and insecure attachment—and how these attachment styles affect not just romantic relationships, but friendships as well.

Desiree’s insight on emotional unavailability in relationships hit home. How many of us find ourselves attracted to partners who seem “out of reach” or “emotionally unavailable”? It’s a pattern Desiree often sees, and it can often stem from an anxious attachment style. This is where past beliefs about unworthiness or fear of intimacy play out in unhealthy relationship choices.

But there’s hope! By becoming aware of your attachment style, you can begin to break these patterns. As Desiree shared, healing starts with self-awareness—the first step in shifting these unconscious beliefs and ultimately creating healthier, more secure relationships.

The Power of Masculine and Feminine Energy in Relationships

Now, let’s talk about something that might feel a little out there—masculine and feminine energy. If you’re thinking this is just a spiritual thing, think again! Desiree shed some incredible light on how these energies play a crucial role in the dynamics of relationships. And here’s the key: it’s not about gender, it’s about energy.

In a balanced relationship, you need polarity—a balance of masculine and feminine energies. Think of it like two magnets: one with a positive charge and the other with a negative charge. When these energies are in harmony, the attraction is magnetic. But when both partners are in the same energy (e.g., both in their masculine energy), it can cause friction and a lack of connection.

Desiree shared her personal journey of realizing how she had been operating in her masculine energy and how that didn’t serve her relationships. Over time, she learned to embrace her feminine energy in partnership, which allowed her to feel cherished and supported. If you’re wondering how to get more in touch with your feminine energy, Desiree suggests softening and letting your partner take the lead. Small, everyday moments—like letting your partner choose where to eat or letting them take charge in certain situations—can make a huge difference in creating a balanced relationship dynamic.

Tools for Cultivating Divine Relationships

What’s the secret to healthy relationships, whether romantic or platonic? It’s self-trust. Desiree and I discussed how to strengthen that inner trust by stepping outside of your comfort zone and allowing yourself to take risks. For women especially, the key to deepening your trust in yourself is to practice feeling safe and supported by those around you, so you can show up vulnerably and authentically in your relationships.

Whether you’re single and looking for a relationship or currently in one, Desiree encourages us to lean into our inner wisdom and embrace our worth. Trust your instincts, communicate openly, and allow your relationships to evolve naturally, without forcing them into a box.

Final Thoughts and Reflection

Desiree wrapped up our conversation with a powerful reflection for all of us to ponder: What would your life look like if that one problem you’re struggling with right now no longer existed? What would your relationships look like? What kind of changes would you make?

Take a moment to think about that. As Desiree says, this simple question can help illuminate the next steps you need to take on your personal journey. It helps you focus on the bigger picture and step outside of the current challenges to envision the life you truly desire.

Connect With Desiree

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Website: https://www.desireemichelle.net